Catching a break, maybe.

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Well, well, well. If it isn’t one thing, it’s another. Let me just tell you how things are going on the home front.

This has been one expensive summer. It started with Brandy’s TTA surgery. Then it was about buying a new car. Now it’s about getting robbed and then later rear-ended in your brand new car.

I know, right? This girl just can’t catch a break. My brand new car will never be brand new. Look on the bright side, you say? Screw your bright side. I’m still in stage one of grief over a lot of things here.

First off, not being able to think about anything when you’re away from your home other than that you may be getting robbed is horrible. Now, to drive your car and think about getting rear-ended all the time AND think about getting robbed is enough to make you go crazy with what-if’s. Things are tense at the moment.

Then, start thinking about the amount of time we’ve spent calling insurance companies, memorizing the names of claims adjusters and account numbers and try to make all of this happen, all while trying not to yell and scream about how unfair it all feels.

Catching a break, maybe.

 

^^ How I feel about pretty much everything.

I know what you’re thinking. It could be worse.

Can’t it always be worse? Just by stating that you’re alive and not dead makes you think it can always be worse, but listening to others say that or trying to tell yourself that simple fact is not what I want to hear or think right now. Yes, it could be worse, but does that mean I’m not allowed to be upset about the situations at hand? I’m not saying I want to be upset or frustrated, but saying it could be worse isn’t a solution. Not even a bandaid.

So I choose this blog space to air out my problems because maybe if I talk about it I’ll get it out of my system and start to ignore the issues that are clawing at my skin.

It hasn’t worked yet.

People say it could be worse because they don’t know what else to say. They’re just as stunned as I am. It’s ok, I get it. You don’t have to offer any words of wisdom (but if you have them, real words of wisdom, I’ll take em). I’d rather the police catch the people who broke into my home and put them in jail, punish the woman who hit my car with high insurance rates, and deliver my new couch with all of the components instead of delivering torn, incomplete pieces (don’t even get me started on this crap).

And to give credit where appropriate, people have been very generous and helpful to me throughout this process. People can be trusting, loving and caring. I just want to see justice where it is due.

In the mean time, I’ll be over here, making up recipes and posting them on this blog. Going to work. Playing with my pups. Loving everything else with my boyfriend. Trying not to be a hater.

 

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  • Danielle Look

    In difficult times such as these, I always remind myself that what’s been done can’t possibly ever be un-done. And the adage, cliche or not, applies: what doesn’t kill you, makes you stronger. No matter how much life sucks, you have to put your Big Girl panties on and take care of this shit to get things back in line. It may not seem like there is no end in sight, but you WILL eventually restore order.

    You will most certainly be faced with similar inconveniences in your life again at some point. When that time comes, you’ll be able to leverage the experiences you’re going through now to make it quicker and less painful next time. Being a grown up sucks, but growing wiser in the process is certainly a silver lining.

    • solidgoldeats

      Thanks for the words of strength, Danielle. *Pulls up Big Girl panties and takes a deep breath*

  • Anita at Hungry Couple

    I’m so sorry you’ve had to go through all this. I understand the incredible, overwhelming frustration of having one thing piled up on top of another and the helplessness of it all. Since you already know it could have been worse, I won’t tell you that. :) What I will tell you, from personal experience, is that the world spins around non-stop. What now is low after low will soon be high after high. By the way, I can only assume that whomever broke in, did so when that creature on the couch was not home? :)

    • solidgoldeats

      The dogs were home but they were in their crates. Dollar has a bad habit of knocking things over and peeing on the floor when we leave him out. Needless to say, I’m leaving him out and dealing with anything torn or peed on because that’s way better than having your home broken into :(

  • Kayleigh Dye

    Thanks for touching on the idea that people sometimes feel the need to comfort others by pointing out that the situation could always be worse. It is definitely something that is said when someone has no idea what else to say and I feel like it is one of the worst things to say. Its like seeing a person who looks like they have been crying and asking them if they are okay, of course they are not okay and now you probably just made them start crying again.

    I am glad you have this blog to vent about the way you are feeling. I wanted to ask you the other night but I am sure you are getting prodded from all sides about how you are handling everything. Eric and I had our house broken into this summer by some neighborhood punks. The only damage was stolen dvds and booze but we lost that sense of security and we haven’t been able to get that back yet. I have trouble locking the house up for the night now thinking that someone is in there and I don’t like it one bit. I used to feel so safe in that house and now its just gone. Things have gotten better though over the past couple of months. It has been really quiet and I haven’t heard of anyone else in the neighborhood getting their house broken into lately. Hopefully fall will be a better season for us all to get things back in order. I am ready for a low key couple of months before the holidays!

    • solidgoldeats

      I’m sorry to hear that you also have the same horrible feeling of having your home broken into. It’s terrible and I wouldn’t wish it upon anyone. But having people like you with smiling faces to see keeps those bad thoughts away ;)

  • Michelle M

    It’s been a hell of month/season for so many people! No need to look on the bright side if you don’t feel like it. But I will say this- each one of these things is teaching you something, so that the next time something crappy happens, your knowledge base is a bit deeper. Does it still continue to suck? Yes. But finding resolution once will help you find it again and again in other situations. (says the friend who got into a 3rd accident 3 days after I turned 26 and supposed to get a car insurance discount, who had a tax refund delayed by 8 months the year the IRS decided to audit every adoption tax credit family in the country, and who’s family has met their health insurance deductible by January 15th the past two years)

    • solidgoldeats

      Oh yuck, that is one string of events after the other. I agree, finding a way to deal with the stress means that I can handle not only this situation but others down the road. I just wish I didn’t have to learn it the hard way.

  • Amber Striegel

    My step-mom and I gave this crappy year a title: “F*ck 2013.” Sounds like it’s not been the luckiest for a few of us. This, too, shall pass… Onward and upward… Light at the end of the tunnel… Blah. I recommend a 5-mile run, booze, ice cream and Breaking Bad marathon. ;)

    Hugs!